WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO HAVE A STRONG CHARACTER?

How often have you found yourself in a situation where one of your friends or relatives violated your personal comfort zone, and you could not prevent it in any way? Such situations happen all the time, and therefore the task of each person is to learn how to build personal boundaries and defend them.

What does it mean to have a strong character?

When you hear the phrase “he/she has a strong character”, you immediately think that this person probably had to go through many trials that he overcame. But the same can be said about a person who is clearly aware of his personal boundaries and does not allow other people to violate them.

Types of personal boundaries

Personal boundaries can be physical and psychological. If we talk about physical boundaries, then the zone of personal space directly depends on the degree of your acquaintance with this or that person. For example, if this is a close friend or relative of yours, you might feel comfortable having him in the intimate area of ​​your space. This means that you do not experience discomfort even when the person is less than an arm's length away. If an unfamiliar or unfamiliar person invades your intimate zone, you have anxiety, your heart rate increases and your blood pressure rises. This is a normal reaction of the body, because it perceives this person as a threat. For comfortable communication with such people, the personal zone is optimal. This is a distance of 50 cm to 1.5 m, which allows you to exchange information if necessary, but does not violate your personal boundaries.

The psychological boundaries of a person depend on several factors: Type of character. For example, if you are an extrovert, then the concept of personal boundaries is rather vague for you, because it doesn’t cost you anything to violate other people’s boundaries and let other people into your personal comfort zone. But if you are an introvert, then you, on the contrary, are rather reluctant to let people near you; Self-esteem. A person with normal or high self-esteem will never violate the psychological boundaries of another person by checking his phone or eavesdrop on his conversation. But for people with low self-esteem, this is a common phenomenon, the cause of which is their constant self-doubt; A family. Much depends on the environment in which a person grew up, whether family members respected each other's boundaries.

How to learn to become stronger and defend your boundaries?

There are people who often deliberately violate your physical and psychological boundaries of personal space in an attempt to provoke you. You need to be prepared for this and be able to stand up for yourself. When it comes to invading your intimate comfort zone, you can step back, thereby increasing the distance, and take a defensive posture with your arms crossed over your chest. If your psychological boundaries are violated, remain calm and let the person know that you are not interested (criticism in your direction or unnecessary advice). Remember that being nice to everyone is not going to work, and if you want to feel more comfortable in the company of other people, find the strength in yourself to protect the boundaries of your personal space.

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